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This content addresses submission in marriage, focusing on the biblical instruction for wives to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord. Key points include:

The common argument among women in the church—that submission to a husband isn’t required if he doesn’t submit to Christ—is challenged. Scripture doesn’t condition submission on a husband’s behavior. Examples like Derek Prince’s first wife, Lydia, and Billy Graham’s wife, Ruth, illustrate humility. Both were spiritually mature and gifted yet chose to step back, allowing their husbands to lead. Women shouldn’t compete with men for leadership or recognition. Men need to prove their worth, while women, as daughters of God, possess innate value without needing to do so. Women are called to fight spiritual warfare through prayer, not to argue or nag in the physical realm. Their role is to intercede and battle spiritually, not wrestle against flesh and blood. In marital conflicts, prayer and seeking God are urged over arguing or manipulating. Nagging is ineffective compared to prayer and God’s power to transform a man’s heart. Submission to a husband, regardless of his actions, is presented as an act of fearing and honoring God. Women are encouraged to trust in their identity as daughters of God and rely on Him to address marital struggles. The message emphasizes embracing this God-given role, submitting to husbands out of obedience to God, and fighting spiritual battles through prayer, with the assurance that God sees these efforts and offers heavenly reward.

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marriage setting God says submit to your husband as unto the Lord so now we're here what if your husband does not submit to Christ ok that is the argument that a lot of Jesuits about spirit are talking about they're like well he's not submitting to Christ so why would I submit to him? That's the argument of every woman in the church. I have heard so much and I'm sick of it. So they just say, well, I didn't submit to him because he didn't submit to Christ. So you guys are wrestling, okay? You start arguing with him and it's because you think you have the right to argue because

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he doesn't submit to Christ. Well, listen, go back to check your scripture. Did God say, wife submit to your husband as unto the Lord, only if he submit unto the Lord? Did God say that? No. Today I wanted to talk about a topic that's mostly for women, but as you know, you're welcome to hang in here and maybe you can use my video to test some girls you might be dating and see how they how they view my channel, how they view this content and if they agree or not. I believe some guys have this question like,

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my wife or my fiance or this girl I'm dating, she seems to be much more spiritual than me and she seems to be much more gifted than me in the spirit, you know, in every way. Like I don't feel like I can be her priest. I don't feel like I can be her leader. I don't feel like I can be her pastor at home. So I feel insecure about leading this woman. What should I do? So first of all, you need to fix the insecurity. But let me speak to the woman here There are two preacher. I really appreciate number one. You guys all know

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Derrick Prince, right? He basically teach me that all the foundation of the Bible and I and he mentioned that his first wife Lydia So they met in Jerusalem and Lydia was already a very renowned Minister she had a mature ministry she had an orphanage or something like that and she was already have some kind of reputation so when their Prince met this

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woman he honored her and respect her so much so when God told both of them like I want you guys to get married and after they get married, what Lydia did was to step down. He let Derek Prince be the leader of their house. He let Derek Prince to take the lead of the ministry that she built. You know what I'm saying here? That's humility.

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That's what a woman of God does. That's what a daughter of God does, is to fear God and keep his commandment and God's commandment is wives submit to your husband as unto the Lord and Lydia did exactly that if Lydia let the Jezebel spirit kick in and you know hold on to his her power and would not let their prince take the lead or even but she keep nitpicking on him or feel like she can do much better, then there are a chance that he will never become the man he was.

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It's because that woman stand behind him even though she was so much more experienced, so much more honor in ministry. So that's one case and there is another case, Billy Graham, you know, you all Americans love Billy Graham, and I want to mention Billy Graham's wife Ruth. Ruth got this reputation, and she got the reputation because Billy Graham, you know, give her a lot of credit in the public, but we don't really know this woman, right? So Billy Graham give her a lot of credit, and he once said that

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she is his first go-to person when he has confusion about scripture because he always said that Ruth has a really deep understanding of scripture she is the best student he ever met in the Holy Bible so you see he is the one that we know he is the one that we honor, he is the one in the spotlight is preaching. But he had a wife who probably is even more gifted than him in understanding, you know, in the Holy Scripture.

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But she chose to not take his place. She chose to be the backstage hero. The point here today woman wanted to take man's place because woman wanted to take man's spotlight woman wanted to compete with man woman feel that I can do what he do I can do even better than he does so why would I let him take all the credit and I just step back and be this invisible name in the human history and you know on the contrary my husband got all the credit. Why would I do that? You know

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I think you only see what it is on earth and I like what Derek Prince said. He said the woman, the wife behind the man, the successful husband will be much more rewarded in heaven because God God sees your tears, God sees your battle, God sees you are wrestling with the enemy in your prayer closet, God sees your humility, God sees your strength and that is enough. Your reward is not here, your credit is not given by other people, your credit is given by your father in heaven.

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I wanted to bring up this one thing. You know why we want men to be in the spotlight and take all the credit? Because they need that. Because men need to prove to themselves that they are worthy. Women don't need to. Why? Because you are born with innate value. just please tell me which daughter of king needs to prove to others that I am valuable hey you should see how valuable I am no they don't need to prove anything they are daughters of king so it is other man to prove to her that I'm worthy of you, I can marry you, but you as a woman, you don't

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need those things like men need, because you are already worthy. So why are you competing with men? Why are you taking their credit? Why are you taking their place? Why are you taking their leadership? Let them do it, that's the place God give it to them. And I'm telling you, man at the beginning are called to rule the physical realm since Genesis. So Adam is like a gardener. Adam is the one that subdued the earth and dominated everything that God created. But why was Eve created? So that word in the Hebrew Bible that God didn't give Eve the name Eve. God called her Azur. E-Z-E-R I think that's pronounced as an Azur. So an Azur in Hebrew does not just mean helper.

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So in English we said, okay God created woman to be the helper of man. That is not just any helper okay helper is a very vague word i mean what are you helping for helping to cook helping to do his laundry helping to um i don't know clean up the backyard or something like that no women are a military way. So what does that mean? Women are fighters. Women are called to fight the spiritual warfare. And who is a woman's enemy? Satan. So from the beginning God created women to fight spiritual warfare. When men are gardening in the physical realm. So you have different spot and you being the woman, you being the wife, you are wrestling against flesh and blood. You are arguing with your husband, you are fighting in the physical realm. You got this whole thing wrong because you know when Yi fell her mission Adam fell too they both

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fell into sin because woman are called to stay in your prayer closet you know you're not there to argue with the husband this is the part I want to talk about when argument come what are you gonna do how a woman of God, how a daughter of God handle argument with her husband submit to your husband as unto the Lord so now we are here what if your husband does not submit to Christ

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ok, that is the argument that a lot of Jezebel spirit are talking about. They are like, well, he is not submitting to Christ, so why would I submit to him? That's the argument of every woman in the church. I have heard so much, and I'm sick of it. So they just say, well, I didn't submit to him because he didn't submit to Christ. So, you guys are wrestling, okay?

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You start arguing with him, and it's because you think you have the right to argue because he doesn't submit to Christ. Well listen, go back to check your scripture. Did God say, wife submit to your husband as unto the Lord only if he submits unto the Lord? Did God say that? No. Okay, it's not on the condition that he submits to Christ. Even if he is being prodigal, you still submit to him. and some of you are like, ok, you are just too man pleasing, I am not being man pleasing. this is the fear of God.

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that scripture means, even if at this point this man is not being submissive to the Lord, this man is being rebellious, this man is being stiff necked, this man is being double-minded, this man is pissing you off, okay? This man is being prodigal. This man, you just really wish you could fight him back, but you can't. And it's not because you fear him, it's because you fear God.

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Okay? It's not because he is worthy, it's because you fear God. You know? So the question boils down here is that why there are so many marital problems? It's because those couple, they are thinking, well they are not worthy of me submitting to Him. And men are thinking, well she is not worthy of me loving her as love the church, you know, because she didn't submit to me. So everybody is wrestling. You know, you are putting your eyes on each other when you should put your eyes on Jesus.

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So you honor God's commandment. You keep God's commandment in marriage is because you fear God. It's because God says so. So this is what you wanted to do, sisters. sisters, okay, the way to handle a conflict with your husband, especially, okay, especially you think you have the right, you have the right to argue, you are the one who got this righteous reason to fight back, to nag, to bitter, because you are like, well, I tell him, you know, 5 times that he's gonna dump the trash after I put the dish in the dishwasher and he just never did it, you know, something like this. You feel like

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you have the right because you have already been patient with him, you have been telling him over and over again nicely but he just wouldn't listen. So you feel like you have the right to be angry at him, you feel like you have the right to nag at him. You don't. You don't. You don't nag at Jesus. Do you? You don't rant at Jesus. You don't dare to go off at Jesus. You don't. So, what if this man is just stiff-nagged and he's just stubborn and he's not listening and he is even prodigal. He's running around. What are you going to do?

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But remind yourself who you are, sister, who you are. You're a daughter of the king, you're the daughter of God. So don't act like you're fatherless. Don't act like you don't have a daddy. You know, even Taylor Swift has that sound. My dad is going to show you how sorry you'll be.

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So you have a daddy. Listen to me, you have a daddy. So what are you going to do? You're going to tell your daddy about it. He's arguing with you, he's being a prodigal, he's being an asshole, and you know don't be you know what I'm saying go to a prayer closet cry out to God tell him you want justice daddy you see you see what is going on here you see that I hold my peace you see that I honor your commandment you know

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you see that I fear you I didn't argue back because that is my husband that is my Lord and I honor I submit to him as I submit to Christ so I didn't argue with him but father I don't I don't think this is right for him to keep doing this and Lord help me and that's enough you just watch okay you just watch what is gonna happen to it because you can knack at a man for years. Nothing is gonna happen It's never gonna change and if he has to change the only thing he's gonna change is you

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He's gonna just change a woman So don't knack talk to your daddy and Something is gonna happen Something is gonna happen. You know you knack for at a man for 10 years is not even half as efficient as God speak one word over that man that one word can strike him to his knees you know so you're doing

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something inefficiently you're doing something that is against God's will you're doing something that does not honor anybody, you don't even honor yourself and you're bringing all this burden on yourself because you're using your human power, your language to manipulate your emotion to manipulate, to get your husband to do what you want to do

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it's not very wise. Wise woman pray wise woman fight in prayer, wise women don't fight with their hands, with you know, they don't wrestle against flesh and blood, because your task from the beginning is to fight satan, is to fight spiritual warfare, and don't complain, don't complain that, well my husband don't pray enough, i just wish he could be more spiritual, you want him to be more spiritual. Pray about it. Okay? And another thing is that if he is bringing food to the table, if he is, you know, paying all the

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bills, he is fulfilling his calling as a provider because the Bible says, he who does not provide for his own is worse than an unbeliever. So this man is fulfilling his duty and you're not fulfilling your duty as a prayer warrior, as the watchman, the intercessor. And because he doesn't pray enough, that's why you should pray even more. Don't fight with nagging. Don't fight with manipulation. Don't fight by withholding sex. That is foolish. Don't fight with ghosting, don't fight with co-violence, you know, don't fight by making him jealous those are foolish women, ok, you are daughter of God, those are foolish women who don't have God as their daddy

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so you have a daddy, and you don't need to take a man's spot, you don't need to take a man's credit, you don't need to be a co-pastor with your husband at your own ministry. Seriously, you know if you're a woman in ministry, your husband is in ministry, why do you want any title? Why do you want to fight for accomplishment? Let him take it, he needs it. Man needs accomplishment, women don't need, okay? let them have the accomplishments so they can be the glory of God and you are already their glory. a daughter of king doesn't need to prove anything. so

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make sure you know who you are created to fight spiritual warfare, not to fight over you know argument in real life. When conflict happens, pray about it and always remember to honor God, no matter what your husband did. That's your husband. And God says, submit to your husband as unto the Lord, no matter what he did. You pray. If you really want this man to change, to be changed, to become the man you wish him to be, nagging is useless. The only way to make him that man is to pray is to keep praying, keep praying

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keep praying, praying, praying, praying, praying, you know and he shall be down according to your faith. So be a wise woman and know your worth and know who is at your back alright, I hope this is helpful and don't forget to like, share and subscribe to my

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until next time, God bless you